We all want success and hope to be special and important but how? How can we create a life for ourselves that feels like our version of success? Lillian Ahenkan has done exactly that and now has a book stuffed full of her tips, wisdom, experience, advice and warm vibes. At the heart of her success and confidence is self knowledge! Which is why this episode will tell you how to figure yourself out (and why bother).
Lillian Ahenkan, otherwise known as Flex Mami or Flex, is an As Seen Everywhere success story. She is a DJ, MTV presenter, Big Brother Australia Contestant, Social Commentator and Influencer and has not one but four podcasts. Flex is also the CEO and founder of the conversation card game: ReFlex.
Flex was the winner of E Online’s People’s Choice Award for Influencer of the Year in 2020, winner of Instagram Australia’s Young Entrepreneur of 2020 and a finalist for Cosmopolitan’s Beauty Influencer of the Year in 2018. Flex describes herself as “a doer of things” and now, in June this year she added “author” to her resume, releasing “The Success Experiment”, published by Pantera Press, which is described as “A joyful, confident, razor sharp and exquisitely modern plan to creating success in a way that is meaningful to you.”
In this episode you are going to find out why learning about yourself may be the best thing you can do for your confidence.
In this super helpful episode on Bod Almighty we cover:
- How Dean Winchester from Supernatural and the Hogwarts sorting hat inspired Flex to seek out personality tests (around 2:30)
- Which Hogwart’s house Flex is in – can you guess? (around 4:15)
- Hot tip: One of the incredible benefits of learning about yourself (around 6:00)
- What people thought of Flex in high school (around 8:00)
- The link between self awareness and confidence (around 8:30 )
- Conviction and trusting yourself (around 9:00)
- Why Flex knows for sure she is special and important (around 11:00)
- “Pretty privilege” and the beauty standards Flex grew up with (around 11:30)
- Our favourite story - What Flex’s Mum did to her teeth! (around 12:00)
- Two opposing things can be true! (around 16:00)
- How the world lies to us about who can be successful (around 18:00)
- What Flex does when “Miss Insecurity” drops by (around 19:30)
- “Your insecurity is showing you the blueprint” (around 20:00)
- Flex’s current insecurity (around 21:00)
- How Hannah invited her eating disordered mindset to help her (around 22:00)
- Why this conversation might be hard for lots of people (around 23:00)
- Hot tip: Do your insecurities still exist if you strip away external validation? Try this thought exercise (around 23:30)
- How to challenge body change goals – and why you might be resisting doing so! (around 25:30)
- How this relates to Flex’s experience with dating (around 26:30)
- The interesting reason why you might resist the ideas of body positivity and intuitive eating (around 29:00)
- Why you can’t just “sit in your flesh sack” and hope to feel better about yourself (around 31:00)
- A story about one of Flex Mami’s Instagram posts (around 32:00)
- Hot tip: Flex’s eleven critical questions for self reflection from page 76 of her book “The Success Experiment” (around 33:00)
- Michelle’s favourite question from Flex’s list (around 33:30)
- Hannah’s favourite question from Flex’s list (around 35:30)
- “I feel like a baby porcupine” (around 37:30)
Resources:
Flex’s instagram: @flex.mami
